I am not as worried about curriculum or ability to homeschool as I am my child's teachability.
Others tell me it will work itself out in time, but I feel that we are missing so much as my child doesn't really like being taught by me. Fear of failure and perfectionism are present (she is the first of three as well) though we talk at length that I grade her on the fact that she tries and on her behavior more than if the answers are right.
Any thoughts on how to wield a child's thoughts on what it should look like to be taught by mom?
Hi Laura Hmm.. this is a hard one. I think it is quite natural for a child to resist 'being taught' - they often want to find things out for themselves. I know I don't like to be taught things much - it interferes with my natural learning process. I am not saying I don't ever accept help in understanding things - but there is a student/teacher balance that for me (and my children) requires more 'student' time than 'teacher' time. I wonder if this is the resistance your daughter is having.
You say that you grade your daughter's work. I wonder if it would help if you stopped doing that for a while. As a student you tend to know when you have struggled with something, and when you have done your best. I am thinking she may respond better to a simple 'well done - you worked hard on that'. Perhaps you could even get her to grade her own work? If you need to grade it for your states requirements, then you could do this without her knowing.
If you can, then I would also let her take a little more responsibility for teaching herself. Set her something to study and then let her research the answers - and maybe even present her research back to you so that she becomes the teacher. If she doesn't do a great job, then you could say you don't understand something - and let her go back and research it more so she can explain it to you better.
Homeschooling really is a collaborative project between the two of you - and I think experimenting with teaching her to be an independent learner may well help her to be more relaxed and prepared to take risks.
best wishes, Julie.
Do you have a comment to help Laura with this? Please leave it by clicking on the link below.
Oh my goodness! I am a home schooling mum of 4 and I have NEVER found a better site! Thank you so much.
Blessings, Jenny (New Zealand)
I wanted to say THANK YOU for your fabulous website. I found your website, and finally I have the confidence to take the plunge and take my daughter out of school and educate her at home, thank you, thank you. Marina (UK)
I cannot get over how much great information and super ideas you have here. Fantastic! Ruralmama (USA)
This is simply fabulous!! I just now found this site and I'm so excited!! The opportunities and suggestions as well as the need to inspire are exactly what I have been searching to fulfill!! I'm so thrilled to get started and even more excited to continue to explore all of the fabulous suggestions and creative ideas you have offered here!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you! Jennifer (USA)